Verdict: we've pretty much all done it, and had it done to us. And we've all been confronted by someone's other half; usually by phone rather than with a machete, thank god, but I guess it all depends which pond you decide to dive into.
We seem to have caught the crest of a wave here [God, we're current]. Midnight Sex Talk this week coincided with the publication of a new book, Affair! by H. Cameron Barnes, which is a guide to committing 'intelligent adultery'. Along with other columnists, Barbara Ellen in the UK Observer found it a pretty rancid concept.
There's lots of help for you on the web if you suspect your other half: Five Clues They Might Be Cheating and smartmarriages.com to name but two. If you've decided to turn detective, you can get a keylogger for your computer. And if you're really burning up, you can turn full-on CSI and get yourself a Check Mate. Yep, it tests for semen stains on her knickers. Luvly. But remember - curiosity killed the cat. Once you've gone looking, and found something, there's no going back.
A representative from Christian Voice told us that infidelity will send us to hell. He might have had a fair point if he was referring to this life. However much fashionable philosophy we apply to all this, suspecting someone is cheating on you can be agony.
Conclusion: monogamy is fine if you are both genuinely fine with it. It's bad and wrong to lie and cheat, but if you want to go with other people, you've got to communicate, and negotiate, right from the start. For straight couples, it's all too easy to sit back and assume things. But as an anonymous publisher points out, in Confessions of a Predatory Male, "All bets are off for a high percentage of women when there's a potential erection in the vicinity." And here's Piers:
Piers was a sport, as various blasts from his past revealed themselves in the vicinity. Heh.
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